Lifestyle: How We Survived a ‘Long Distance’ Relationship

As some of you may know, before we lived together in London, we begun our relationship in a somewhat long distance status – I quote and say somewhat to this ‘long distance’ because to some, it may not be long distance and we know it not like we’re on other sides of the world, but nevertheless in different cities. James originally from Chester, moved to Sheffield for university and I, Jessica born and raised in London – that is a total distance of (approximately) 166 miles from London to Sheffield, and just a little bit more to Chester, although both journeys to and from are just over 2 hours one way, and we would only see each other for the weekend every other week – I don’t know about you, but it’s a lot harder than you think.

We’re not claiming to be any type of relationship gurus, this is just what we believed that worked for us – some may just be complete cliches, as well as personal choices.


Communication is the most important aspect in any relationship, especially long distance. James and I would constantly be texting throughout the day, within reason of knowing each other’s schedule. Every morning we’ll send send each other a “Good morning” text, followed by messages in between, letting each know what’s going on to avoid that horrible feeling of the unknown. Before the day ends, we would give another call, FaceTime or back back in the day when we used to Skype because James didn’t have an iPhone, update each other with our days and sleep in the phone, it became a habit and it’s actually very comforting to know they’re on the other end.

Even when we don’t have much to say, the regular messages and updates, helps us feel involved with each other’s day.


A relationship is nothing without trust. Long distance can make some people go crazy and have you wondering what you partner is up to. Who are they with? Why aren’t they texting me back? Why aren’t they picking up their phone? If you’re constantly asking these questions then you’re already falling to the ground. The more you question your partner, the more they feel they can’t share or want to share with you. As a result, your partner may become distant and you might find yourself turning into a crazy person (which lets be honest, I already am)

To avoid all this chaos you have to trust your partner is doing exactly what they say they’re doing and vice versa. Trust and communication are just as equally important.

Don’t lose yourself.

This is so important. They you can’t expect someone to love you if you don’t love yourself first. This of course doesn’t just apply to long distance relationships, but in all relationships.

You will have to occupy your time when you’re away from your other half because time can be so slow! Some people are so dependent on their partner to fill their spare time and once you realize that person is miles away, you’ll get bored. Make plans with your friends, go out for a drink, dinner or just work like I do, which I still do anyway, as well as having your alone time at home in a book or watching – or whatever helps you fill your time.  If you start to have a lot of time on your hands you will find yourself always wanting to talk to your partner and they might find that annoying, especially if their busy filling their own time.


Call me crazy, but I am OCD when it comes to planning, it is in my nature, in my blood – so this was something that didn’t struggle with us. As mentioned previously, we arranged to see each other every two weeks, purely because it sounded like a bearable amount of time away from each other, as well as the minor elements in between, like travel expenses.

You could only imagine how much we’ve spent on travel costs, although we did have many methods in saving money, which we did a post here, and one which includes booking 12 weeks in advance, that’s was a big changer.

As well as to keep up with each other’s schedule when not together, but also to balance and help organise when we could see each other and what we will be doing, I researched for a couples app, which we still use today (for blogging and YouTube scheduling, as well as personal events) called ‘Avocado’, life changing and super useful!

Prepare to sacrifice.

Due to only be able to see each other every other weekend, we had to make personal sacrifices to be with each other – friends and families birthday celebrations and let’s face it, everything pretty much happens on a weekend but in the most none negative way, we had to sacrifice that time with others to be together – we alternated and compromised with dates, but some things are just enviable, especially when things are planned last minute and these train tickets had already been bought 3 months prior.

Long distance relationships require extra attention, extra money, just extra everything. It’s going to be challenging at times, but overcoming these challenges will make your relationship stronger!

Now we’re living together and we won’t lie and say we don’t have our rough days, but who doesn’t – true love doesn’t dies. It’s amazing what you’ll do for the person you love, and no matter the distance or circumstance, if you’re meant to be together, you’ll be together.

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  1. DontBurstMyBubble
    June 24, 2016 / 7:41 pm

    This is a wonderful post ! It must be so so hard to deal with a long distance relationship, communication is so so important and trust is everything in any relationship ! This post is so so helpful, I'll be going to uni soon so me and my girlfriend will be making it work long distance 🙂 lots of love, Marianne xxxhttp://myhappybubblexx.blogspot.co.uk/

    • Food & Baker
      June 25, 2016 / 1:17 pm

      Aw thank you so much for reading and commenting. We appreciate it so much ☺️😂It's not easy, but so so much worth it. It just makes you appreciate each other so much more and make your moments together so much more special!Good luck to you both! 😊

  2. Gwennan Rees
    June 25, 2016 / 4:10 pm

    This is SUCH a lovely post! I went to uni in Wrexham (hey to Chester!!!) and my boyfriend went to Bristol so with trains it was upwards of 4 hours to get to eachother so I totally relate to everything in this post! Communication is 100% the thing I'd say is the truest, long distance relationships aren't that unusual anymore but I know so many fail because they don't just chat about their day. As long as me and my boyfriend had one text a day to say this is what I've done today, this is how I am we were happy. In the end the longest we went apart was 6 weeks and now we're back in our home town living together I would 100% say we're better and stronger for the time we had apart. Great great post! http://www.twentysomethingmeltdown.com

    • Food & Baker
      June 26, 2016 / 1:12 am

      Aw thank you! Oh wow, that's a much longer commute than us – I don't think we ever went longer than 3 weeks without seeing each other – so kudos to you both!!It's so lovely to have relate to this post! Thank you so much for reading and commenting! ☺️💓

  3. Tash T
    June 27, 2016 / 2:12 pm

    I know all that you guys have gone through! My partner and I met whilst working on cruise ships … We then spent 9 months on seperate ships, only being able to communicate via calling cards when we had good signal. The hardest times were dealing with the lack of communication especially in the first stages of our relationship. But like you we are still happily together. Both living in London with our puppy Ted 4.5 years later! So no matter what love will will prevail ��

    • Food & Baker
      June 27, 2016 / 2:43 pm

      Aww what a beautiful story! That's so sweet – it's so lovely have so many people that have gone through this to still be together, as some people like to doubt that these type of relationship won't last!Thank you so much for reading and commenting☺️💓

  4. Chloe Borderick
    July 31, 2016 / 3:23 pm

    This is such a great post – I've been in my relationship for six years, four of which have been long-distance which officially ended when we graduated this summer. We are due to move in together, engaged and planning the wedding – I am so glad I ignored the 'advice' to give up and not try to do the long distance thing when we started university. I have no regrets! NINEGRANDSTUDENT: A Lifestyle Blog

    • Food & Baker
      July 31, 2016 / 8:24 pm

      Oh wow that is a long time and that is such a cute romantic story! So so happy for you guys and congratulations! This is so beautiful and so inspiring!Thank you for reading and commenting☺️💓

  5. Becki
    September 1, 2016 / 9:52 am

    Love this post! I'm so glad you managed your situation and found time for each other. I work away in the week (mainly London) so can completely relate! I definitely think communication and setting aside dedicated time is the key to maintaining a long distance relationship!Becki | http://www.primeanddine.co.uk

    • Food & Baker
      September 1, 2016 / 10:22 am

      Oh my, you commute from Sheffield to London!?Exactly, I'm glad you can agree!Thank you for reading and commenting☺️💓

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